“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the...
“…let the marriage bed be undefiled…” Hebrews 13:4
“How far can I go daddy?” Is the question my child asked while spending time on the sand bar at Torch Lake. I asked, “Do you see where the water color changes from light blue to deep blue? The color change means the water gets deep quickly. You don’t want to get close to the edge. Look around and see all the light blue areas, those areas are safe.” We spent the rest of the day enjoying our time playing within the boundaries of the sandbar.
When we contemplate the boundaries that God has given us in the area of sexuality, we often ask the same question, “How far can I go? Or how far is too far?” The difference is we ask those questions not because we want to live far away from boundary line—instead we want to live as close to the line as possible.
Even within marriage, our culture would have us believe that everything is permissible including pornography and spending time alone with someone who isn’t our spouse. That the only true boundary is the physical act of adultery. But that’s not the boundary Jesus gives, “I say to you that anyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery” (Matthew 5:28).
The act of defiling the marriage bed doesn’t begin with the physical act of adultery, it begins when the mind thinks or the heart feels that the gift of your spouse is not enough. The boundary is in the mind and heart. You must vigilantly guard your mind and heart and seek to find fulfillment in the gift of your spouse. Your spouse is a good gift from God and they are enough.
Almighty God, thank You for my spouse. Remind me that they are a good gift from You—and that they are enough. Keep my mind and heart pure. Amen.
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